Private Equity and High-Asset Divorce in Maryland: When Wealth on Paper Isn’t Cash in Hand
October 30, 2026
What I've learned about domestic abuse in families that seem to have everything
On October 21, 2026 I sat on a panel at CHANA's VOICES event with two rabbis and a therapist. Afterward, several people came up to me about one point I made. They had never really thought of domestic abuse as something that happens in families like theirs.
It does. I've practiced family law in Maryland for more than 40 years, and some of the most controlling relationships I've seen were in homes most people would envy. Successful careers. Beautiful houses. Respected names.
From the outside, those families look like they have every resource they could ever need. That is exactly why the problem goes unnoticed.
Why Abuse Hides In Comfortable Homes
A few patterns come up again and again.
Control Often Looks Like Money Management
In many marriages, one spouse handles all the finances. That can be a perfectly normal division of labor. It can also be how one person keeps the other dependent: no access to accounts, no idea what the family owns, an allowance instead of a partnership. By the time that spouse wants out, they may not know where the money is or how to pay a lawyer.
Reputation Raises the Stakes
When a family is well known, the pressure to keep things quiet is enormous. People worry about what others will say, about their children, about a spouse's business or standing in the community. Silence protects the image. It also leaves the person being hurt on their own.
Abuse Isn't Always Physical
Much of what I see is coercive control: monitoring, isolation from friends and family, threats, constant criticism, control over decisions large and small. There may never be a bruise. People living with it often don't call it abuse, and neither do the people around them.
Everyone Assumes They Can Afford Help
Friends figure someone with means will find the right lawyer, the right therapist, the right way out. Sometimes that's true. Often the person has no idea where to start, or is afraid that any move will make things worse.
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What A Lawyer Can Do, And What A Lawyer Can't Do
I can protect a client's legal rights. I can deal with the courts, uncover the finances, and fight for a fair result on custody and property.
Assessing danger requires an additional skillset. The smart legal move isn't always the safe one at that moment. Timing matters. How and when someone leaves matters. Getting that right takes specialized knowledge of how abuse and control actually work.
That's why I frequently work alongside CHANA. With a client's permission, their team and I approach the situation together. I handle the legal side. They help with safety planning and the emotional and practical challenges of leaving and staying safe. Clients get a better outcome, and frankly, it makes me a better lawyer.
Being able to hire a private attorney doesn't mean someone doesn't need that kind of help. The need doesn't go away because of income.
If Someone Confides In You
Most people don't call a lawyer first. They talk to their rabbi or pastor, a therapist, a doctor, a financial advisor, a close friend.
If you're that person, here's what I'd suggest:
- Listen, and believe them. Don't press for details or push for a decision.
- Don't assume money or status means they're fine.
- Don't confront the other spouse. That can make things more dangerous.
- Point them toward specialized help early. In our community, CHANA offers confidential support at 410-234-0030. Anywhere in the country, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233.
- When legal questions come up, encourage them to talk with a family lawyer, ideally alongside a safety plan, before making major legal or financial moves.
Domestic abuse doesn't discriminate based on income or social status.
Disclaimer: The information provided in this article is for informational purposes only and should not be construed as legal advice. It is always recommended to consult with a qualified attorney for personalized guidance and representation in legal matters.
About the Author
Harry A. Baumohl, Esq. a founder of Baumohl Hamburg, LLC, stands among Maryland's elite family law practitioners, bringing: Over Four Decades of Proven Excellence; Established track record in complex family law matters; Strategic location serving Baltimore County and surrounding jurisdictions.
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